I love brave books, those that challenge “generally valid” concepts and whose authors take on the responsibility of writing them.

“Don't eat the frog. 12 TIME MANAGEMENT concepts turned inside out because that's the only way it works” is one of them and challenged me from the very beginning to a very important exercise of introspection.

In Chapter 2, Meaning, Remus writes about exactly that: how to find your life's purpose so that you stop wandering around in circles, ultimately going nowhere (with all the Time Management techniques you know :)).

So ... how do you find your meaning? You ask yourself these three questions:

1. What makes you cry?

Analyze what triggers your emotional pain, what's bothering you, what's making you so uncomfortable that you're motivated to get up and do something about it.

2. What makes you sing?

Analyze what excites you, what makes you happy, what gives you the instant urge to sing (even if you don't have a voice), what are the things you resonate with on a deep level, what fills your soul with joy and you want to do again and again.

3. What are you dreaming of?

This question capitalizes on the answer to the first two questions and takes them to a higher level. It activates the what if factor. What if you could do what fulfills you and at the same time makes your life and the lives of those around you better? What if you did something truly meaningful?

I tell you about myself below and encourage you to do this exercise too.

I have always been affected by the suffering of those around me and over time I have analyzed its valences and causes. Apparently (or for the “public”) suffering can be: blockage in a project, the desire to obtain or do something and the impossibility to accomplish the necessary steps, a “condition” of the body or mind (diseases of all kinds, depression, anxiety, etc). What does it mean that it affects me? It really makes me cry, as some of my clients have seen me in our workshops.

I have come to the conclusion that separation from God and the traumas of rejection, abandonment and injustice that come with it underlie all forms of suffering which hurts even more. But at the same time the flip side, it makes me sing for joy.

... and so I answer question #2. Any form of activity that is clearly done in clarity, joyfully, in a state of stillness and security that you are not alone, but that God is with you, produces in me a joy without limit.

I can imagine what it would be like if we all understood and lived “by default” the truth that no matter what obstacle we face in physical reality, from a business deal that doesn't work out to a dream whose manifestation is long overdue, the cause and the solution is within. And from there we can return with incredible strength. What would it be like if all the children and all the adults in the world had the absolute certainty that God has never left them and that they are loved and appreciated unconditionally and forever?

That's why I aim to create, as much as I can, a safe and empowering environment in all the courses, webinars, workshops, consulting sessions I facilitate. Whether we're talking about sales, marketing or publishing, I sincerely want all the people who are with me to feel exactly that: that they are unconditionally loved and appreciated, always. If that's resolved, they become rockets in whatever they set their minds to.